It seems like such a mysterious thing...
Understanding spoken French... It's not something you can study or work hard at.
It just happens...eventually.
At first, you watch the words flying around you. But they're not really words yet. Just sounds. Sounds that don't make any sense (even if you've spent years studying French like me).
Maybe you've had a different experience of it with understanding spoken French.
But, for me, the first year or so around native French speakers was a nightmare. A nightmare surrounded by charming villages, great wine and food, but a nightmare nonetheless.
Well, I'm here to tell you that it does get better.
A lot better really.
But it takes patience and a good dose of persistence too.
First off, relax.
It's ok not understanding spoken French. Get comfortable with it. Because it may take you a year to get past this stage.
Make it a point to spend time with English speakers too (or whatever language you prefer) in person, on the phone, on a DVD (for those of you actually living in a different country)...
Whatever way you can do it.
It makes the times when you are not understanding spoken French easier to handle (for those of us living amongst the French).
Think of it like this:
When you were a baby, you heard English all the time. You were probably busy discovering your thumbs at the time.
But the language seeped into your brain whether you "worked" at it or not.
It's the same understanding spoken French.
Except that you're completely aware of your thumbs and you don't feel the need to put everything in your mouth!
You may not know how to use your throat, mouth, and tongue to create French sounds yet, but that is another article (and learning to understand spoken French will help you with that too).
For me, it wasn't really a question of "Do I want to be able to understand French?"
It was more of a "I have to". Of course, I wanted to, but the need was more urgent than before.
So what if you don't need French on a daily basis, but still love it and want to be able to understand spoken French.
Nowadays, it's no problem with DVDs and all.
Just pick up your favorite movie or TV show on DVD and:
What I do personally is run each small segment of the DVD in French with no subtitles.
Then in French with French subtitles.
Then in French with English subtitles
And lastly English with French subtitles.
I do the opposite with my students learning English. It helps them a lot getting used to English native speakers. And they have just as much trouble with us as we do with them!
And I go through the entire DVD like this bit by bit.
We learn a lot of new words this way and, more importantly, we learn which words the French tend to use to express themselves.
Sometimes, I'll watch an entire TV episode in one of the different English-French configurations I mentioned above.
There are no rules!
What works now may not be the same as what worked before or what will work later...
But listening to French will train your ears in understanding spoken French.
The trick is, of course, to do it often which is why you have to find something you enjoy watching. It helps if it's something simple (at first).
Complicated plots can be frustrating for beginners as well as unusual French accents.
But, if you're up for it, and you enjoy it, watch what you enjoy.
How long will it take?
If you do it on a regular basis like everyday, maybe as soon as 6 months. It helps if you've been studying French for a few years, but it's not necessary.
Remember, babies don't read or write and they still manage to learn to understand and speak languages.
But then babies make it too easy on themselves. They have no idea how "hard" it is to learn a language ;)